Updated: Oct 4, 2020
A husband who feels respected and a wife who feels loved demonstrates the balance God wants for each couple. Christ is our model, and He manifests it through His relationship with His church.
Psalm 112 gives us a description of the husband of the virtuous woman found in Proverbs 31. He is the one who allows his wife to develop all the gifts and talents that God has placed inside her.
This woman was no doubt an accomplished businesswoman. If we look at the social and historical context of this couple, we can only be fascinated by the freedom she had to take action, be involved in the marketplace, and make decisions for her family in an environment where her rightful "place" was probably considered to be in the kitchen, cooking meals for her family. She traded, ran a business and cared for her family brilliantly, all under the protection of her husband. This probably meant that he had to fight for her and protect her from those who would keep her from using all the gifts God had given her. The success of his wife was his success. His success also allowed his wife to feel protected and safe.
A couple’s sexuality is very spiritual, and so this balance (the husband first taking care of his wife) is also relevant in their sexual relationship: "The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife..." (1 Corinthians 7:3 NASB). This passage can be interpreted as follows: "The husband must care for his wife’s sexual needs before his own." Both spouses will find full satisfaction when it happens in this order.
The husband loves his wife as Christ loves His church. The woman respects her husband by giving him the opportunity to lead and protect her and their family. This is the balance that allows each spouse to flourish and grow alongside their beloved.
May God bless you and inspire you with love and submission according to His heart.
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